Lord, I’ve become entangled in food addiction again. I’ve been in this trap of defeat for several years now. Really all my life I have struggled with my weight and food addiction.
What’s humiliating is that after You healed me with a weight loss miracle of losing 90 pounds in 2014, I backslid. Yes, in 2017, I backslid and regained 30 0f those pounds.
Although I’ve maintained a weight loss of 60 pounds, I’m ashamed of regaining those 30 pounds. And now I’ve lost & regained the same 10 pounds over & over since 2020.
Lord, I wanted to help others defeat their food addiction, compulsive overeating, binge eating, gluttony, and bloating misery. But how can I help others when I, myself, am entangled in food addiction again?
Yes, here I am now due to my own wrong choices of yesterday. Lord, would You help me again to climb out of this hellhole of my own creation?
I have no strength to resist temptation, but I do want to help others climb out of their hellholes of food addiction. So how can I help them?
Child, I’m full of Almighty power- stronger than any other source. I am ALL power, stronger than your electricity and more powerful than lightening.
Don’t you think I have the power to defeat your food compulsions?
Then My Child, why don’t you come to Me first, before you put anything in your mouth- including your gum. As you chew your gum, practice thanking Me for your victories. When you chew your food, talk to Me.
As a matter of fact, even before you look at your food, talk to Me first about it. Talk to Me about all your concerns.
Talking to Me will bring you peace, henceforth destroying your need to stress eat. For then you’ll be stress praying instead of stress overeating.
Talking with Me will calm your spirit and mind, henceforth destroying the need for emotional eating. For then you’ll be emotional praying. And I will heal your emotions and fill you Myself with a calm and peaceful spirit. Wouldn’t that be better for you instead of a stuffed, bloated belly?
Talking with Me would bring you the pleasure of My sweet Presence, henceforth destroying the power of pleasure food temptations. And then you’d be experiencing the greatest sweet pleasure of life, My Presence surrounding you and within you.
When you’re full of My Presence, then you’re also full of My power and strength. Overall, you’d be full of My peace and My love.
Temptations would no longer defeat you for then you’d be walking in My power and My strength.
Now what do you choose, My Child?
Lord, I choose You. I want You. I want to be free, not entangled in food addiction. But Lord, I’m so weak. Would You help me, even though I backslid due to my own bad choices?
Child, the more of your time you spend in My Presence, the stronger you’ll become. You’ll be walking in My power.
Now come to Me for I love you. And I long to give you victory throughout all your life. As a matter of fact I long to grant all of My children victory over sin, shame and defeat.
I intend for all of My children to live victorious forevermore. For I AM victory. So all of Mine will be victorious too, as they seek to follow Me.
Lord, I’ve let myself become entangled again in food addiction by my own wrong choices. Please set me free from this prison, the one I created for myself. Help me make wise choices that will honor you.
CHEW ON THIS
Set me free from my prison, that I may praise Your Name. Then the righteous will gather about me because of Your goodness to me. Psalms 142: 7 NIV
Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die. Let me hear of Your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting You. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to You. . . . Teach me to do Your will, for You are my God. May Your gracious spirit lead me forward on a firm footing. Psalms 143: 7,8,10 NLT
At last we have freedom, for Christ has set us free! We must always cherish this truth and firmly refuse to go back into the bondage of our past. Galatians 5:1 TPT
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. Galatians 5:13 NIV
Lord, I want Your love. Help me to return to You as My first love, my greatest love. Help me to obey You in all my ways especially in dealing with other people and my food issues.
We love Him because He first loved us. 1John 4:19
What do You want me to write? Do You even want me to write? Lord, I don’t know what it is that You want for me or with me for that matter.
And I’m so concerned about all my grandchildren, and their parents too, living in the society of today. Lord, I don’t know what I can do.
Child, pray My will be done in their lives.
Lord, help me to only speak words of affirmation, encouragement, and of Your love for them. Keep my mouth shut, clamped shut when, or if, it is full of criticism or discouragement.
Also Lord, help me to love You in a way that it pleases You. I want a real relationship with You, not just the mechanics of routine prayers and Bible reading. In fact, I want a deep relationship with You. Overall, I want Your Presence with me at all times, throughout all my life.
We love Him because He first loved us. 1John 4:19
Help me to turn away completely from this unnecessary food that so easily tempts and entraps me to compulsively overeat.
Lord, I do want to lose weight, and I also want to help Hubby lose his extra weight too. But I don’t want him to be skinnier than me. How embarrassing that would be.
So help me to yield Myself to Thee completely and resist temptation to put my face in the feeding trough.
Child if you seek and follow My will concerning your food, you will lose weight. I will lead you and you will have success.
Also Lord, when I write my prayers, thoughts, or even the words You spoke to my heart, I always consider if this would be good to write in this blog. Lord, I want our talks to be about our relationship, not the blog. But if I am to write for the blog, then lead me and help me to organize my time schedule to write and publish.
Child, it will be so.
Lord, I want to know You like those people who say they have a “word” from You. I want to love You like they love You. Also, I want others to see You in me and be attracted to You because of it. Help me to please You in all my ways.
We love Him because He first loved us. 1John 4:19
Make me hungry for You. Yes, I want to be hungry for You. And I want a deeper walk with You too.
Lord, what do You want from me?
Your love, My child, I want your love.
Lord, these people who say they have a “word” from You spend hours in reading Your Word and in prayer too. I don’t have hours due to my job and my home responsibilities.
Child, it is not your hours I want. It is your heart I want. I want your love.
If you will just stop overeating, you will lose weight.
But Lord, what do You mean?
If you will do as I told you before, eat three meals a day with half portions and no snacks,then you will lose weight.
Child, you want to lose weight, but I want to strengthen your spiritual listening skills. I want to make you strong. At this time you see yourself as weak, defeated, and a disappointment to Me.
Just as Gideon said he was the least of the least, you think the same about yourself because you are oppressed by your own personal Midianites.
But My child, I say to you, “O Mighty Warrior.” Come out of hiding and come forth to your victory, the one I have already planned for you.
Child, every time you reach for extra food whether it’s a second serving, an excess serving, or a snack serving, you open the door for compulsive overeating. Child, this happens every time and you feel trapped in despair. You feel that you cannot stop overeating.
But My child, I have come forth to set you free. Just as I told Gideon, I’ll tell you, “I will be with you. You will defeat your personal Midianites.”
Lord, I won’t ask for a sign like Gideon did. I believe you.
Child, you will have a sign. As you listen to Me, follow My instructions, and eat in submission to My orders, then your scales will go down in number. This I promise you. In fact, I do not lie and I always keep My promises. Once I speak, they come forth.
Now I say to you, ‘Get up out of this hole you dug for yourself.
I have already given you victory for I am with you and I am Victory. Now go forth and walk in your personal victory.
Feed On This
You’ve set me free from captivity and now I’m standing ready to fight some more! Psalm 18:36 TPT
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13
. . . Your God has commanded you strength. Psalm 68:28
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7
Never give up. It’s been the pattern of my whole adult life, weight gain, weight loss, weight gain, weight loss, on and on. Finally after 39 years of struggling with obesity weighing 241, I sought God for help and direction.
I went to God everyday for weight loss counseling until I achieved my weight loss goal. This took approximately 9-10 months. Beginning at 241 pounds, I lost 90 pounds with God’s help and maintained this weight loss for over two years following the way God told me to eat.
Then after this success, I thought I had arrived at my dream and could eat just as I did before my weight loss. So I began eating snacks now and again. Over time, this led to much more overeating.
So the number on the scales started creeping up. But I thought “No problem, I can just go back to my weight loss any time I want to.” Wrong.
Today I wish I had never done that. I wish I had stayed in my place of eating in obedience to the way God led me to. Sigh. It’s taken two more years but I’ve gained over +30 lbs. How easily the sins of gluttony have piled up. Lord forgive me. Forgive myself..This is actually a complimentary picture. In the mirror, it looks worse. Sigh.
My grandfather’s legacy is that he said, “Never give up!” His feet got frostbitten during WW1. After getting treatment, he walked all the way back to the front lines and continued fighting for our country. If you can hear me in Heaven, Grandpa, thank you for leaving the legacy of “Never give up.”
I don’t know about you, but now that I’m back on the straight and “narrow” path of eating, it seems harder. My weight goes up a few, goes down a few, back up again, then down again, even though I’m following my correct eating plan. It’s so frustrating. Do you get frustrated too?
Sometimes I feel like just giving up. After all, I’m 67 years old. I took God and His delivering power for granted. Thought I could use it anytime I wanted. Do I give up now at my old age? Have I backslidden too much?
Child, I’m not giving up on you no matter what you eat or do. You are Mine and I have plans for you. Therefore, I will never give up on you.
With God on our side we can’t help but win- uh, lose.
Remember, “Never give up.”
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1 NKJV
But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. Hebrews 11:6 NKJV
“Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” Mark 9:23 NKJV
Liar! You know he’s a liar. Now stop listening to those lies of accusation. Don’t listen to the liars of defeat and discouragement either. Have you ever heard these words in your spirit? Then refuse to accept to accept them. They’re lies from the chief liar.
You’ll never lose this extra weight. Your body is getting older now and your metabolism is slower too. So you probably won’t lose this weight. The part of your life when losing weight came easy is over now. The freedom of eating whatever is gone forever. You will have to spend the rest of your life counting calories, carbs, and measuring your food. Oh, what a life of misery this is. You’re going to have to eat salads and baked chicken for the rest of your life. How boring for you. Why did God make you this way, so easy to gain weight with low thyroid and all. You know why? This is why, He doesn’t care about you or what you eat.
Why don’t you just give up? Relax and just eat what ever your heart desires. Just be a happy fat person. After all, no one really cares. You know, fat is in. Body shaming is out. You’re constantly body shaming yourself. Why don’t you just enjoy being fat. Everybody else does. Relax. After all, who really cares how much you weigh? God doesn’t even care if you’re fat. So why do you struggle to lose weight? Just let yourself go. Enjoy your food. After, God created pleasure. So experience your pleasures of life. Eat, drink, and be merry.
All of those statements are from the liar of liars. What does God say?
So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you; Take your everyday ordinary life- your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking around life- and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for Him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what He wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. Romans 12:1-2 The Message
What’s that saying to you? How do these words compare to the words of the liar? Who do you want to believe, God or the Liar?
Have you ever heard these words?
Go ahead, charge it. After all, it’s on sale. If you don’t get it now, it’ll be gone tomorrow. You better get it now. While it’s on sale is the best time to buy. Just think of all the money you’re saving. You can pay it back later. It doesn’t really matter. You’ll pay it back.
What about these words?
Go ahead, put the trip on your charge card. After all, it’s a business expense. In fact you can count it off on your taxes later. This whole trip, the gas, the hotel, and all your food counts as a business expense. Since it’s business, you can count all this off on your taxes. So go ahead and pick the nicer restaurants. There’s no need to cut expenses. Go for it. After all, you’re a success now. So it doesn’t matter if you use the charge card. This is business. Go for it.
Have you ever heard this?
You need these supplies/services to build your business. Get them now and use the charge card. After all, it takes money to make money. So go ahead and buy these supplies now. They’re here now and you won’t find them later. Doesn’t matter if you use the charge card, you’ll pay it back with all the money you make. Just think of all the profit you’ll make. This is an investment. Go ahead, and charge it. After all, you need this right now in order to succeed. So go for it. After all, you’re going to be successful. Then it won’t matter that you charged these supplies.
Yep, all lies from the chief liar. What does God say?
The poor are always ruled over by the rich, so don’t borrow and put yourself under their power. Proverbs 22: 7 The Message
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Lord, those credit cards are traps of failure. Help me not use them today and to put You first in everything.
Seek HIs will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:6
I have failed You again Lord, and I’ve gotten caught up in so many distractions especially the “resale” business. I let it enslave me. Resale sites on my cell phone became first in my life above all else and all others. I’ve spent hours just looking and looking at pictures of things people were selling and I bought some unnecessary things too. I also listed stuff on these resale sites I wanted to sell. Never made much money, just enough to spend at the grocery store.
Then I spent the money on resale that I planned to use as a deposit on a missionary trip. Instead of using it for the trip, I bought a dining room table and a serving buffet that caught my eye. A credit card was used to buy all this. It was a compulsive buy and for a while my house was full of furniture. My dining room looked like a warehouse with two dining room tables, two serving buffets, and for a while 18 dining room chairs. Don’t even ask. Compulsive buying is worse than compulsive overeating. A credit card can rob you of many blessings. At least, that’s what I think.
Now my missionary trip is cancelled. Hubby, who puts up with my bad spending habits asked, “How are you going to get the money for that trip? You can’t put it on a charge card and I don’t agree with you going anyway.” So there you go, trip over. I can’t help but wonder, if I didn’t have this out standing debt would he had agreed for me to go?
Child, your victory is on the way.
Lord, how can I be a witness? Why am I not crying over this lost missionary trip? I have been so wrong about so much and sidetracked with so many things. My attention hasn’t been on seeking Your will. Now I’ve messed up and lost this opportunity. I do want to help others, but I don’t have the funds, especially now that I’ve spent money I don’t have buying what I don’t need. There has been so much confusion here. I’m confused. How can I be so messed up?
This is a hard lesson. I’ve been causing myself stress due to my compulsive purchases and overwhelming debt What is Your purpose in all this? I have missed Your will again.
Child, you are learning to seek Me in all things. That is My will.
Lord, how do I pay for this credit card expense of new furniture I didn’t need? I have grandchildren to buy gifts for and now look at My hand. It’s empty.
Child, look at My hand. What do you see?
Lord, I see nail prints.
Child, I lost it all but I gained everything. Do you trust Me?
Yes Sir. (Hanging my head in shame.)
Then stop trying to figure out how to provide for others and trust Me. Look to Me – for Me – not My hand, but look at Me. Seek My face for I am the supply for all your needs.Lord, I depend on You for You are my supplier, not those credit cards.
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Do not be like the horse or like the mule, which have no understanding, which must be harnessed with bit and bridle, else they will not come near you. Psalm 32: 8-9 NKJV
For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from the world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever. I John 2: 15-17 NLT
The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. John 10:10 NKJV
Lord, is there any hope for me? I must confess, but You saw what I did and You know. Yesterday, I got plastered, yes plastered, by my drug of choice- food. (*See note at end.)
I choose to be a vegetable yesterday, not eat vegetables, but BE a vegetable. I sat in my chair all day, watched movies , grazed in the kitchen (or my chair), and got plastered on everything I could find to eat. It’s a good thing I was too lazy to go to the store for more. Otherwise, it would have been worse.
Lord, I was so bummed out over this dog situation. I’m never praying for You to send a dog again.
Yes, be careful what you pray for. Sometimes I do give you exactly what you ask for even though it’s not the best for you, just to let you learn what is not best for you.
You asked for a dog that your husband would like. I sent you a manly dog, tough and macho. Your husband liked him, but you always had that underlying slight fear, especially when you read those bad reports about this breed.
You feared for your grandchildren feeding this dog while you were gone on your trip, which I orchestrated by the way. But I told you then, that I had shut the mouth of a lion. Then I asked did you not think I could shut the mouth of a dog too?
Yes, that gave you peace, but you can’t deny the relief you felt when you returned and saw all was safe. This dog is leaving your home because I will not have My children living in fear, no matter how unwarranted it is. Child, sometimes fear is a good thing if it is wisdom disguised as fear. But sometimes fear is sent to distract My children from My will and My love for them. Then they take their eyes off of Me and get their eyes focused on their fear instead. Didn’t one of your Presidents say these words? “We have nothing to fear, but fear itself.”
Yes, I’m giving this dog a new home, rest assured. Then you can focus on what’s left, your husband, your family, your home, the “grand-dog”, and your new assignment.
Yes, I did lead your friend to send you a text of encouragement about her earning four stars in four days, a star for each day of eating in submission to My will. Do you remember how I led you to write that?
Now I want you to return back to your starting mark again, specifically the START OVER mark. Return back to My Presence and start over again. You will return to eating food that is beneficial to your body and turn away from this useless, unnecessary food. You will also learn a new way of cooking to benefit your husband. He will lose weight too. Oh, and the grand-dog, Willow, will lose weight as well. Remember how the vet told you that the best thing you can do for this dog is to stop feeding him.
I say stop over feeding him, your husband, your family, and especially yourself. Extra food is not your friend. No, it is your enemy. Extra food steals your victory and leaves you defeated and discouraged. So why do you run to food for comfort?
Now today is a new day. No longer will you say, “I got plastered.” No longer will you turn to food for comfort. Now walk in the path I have prepared for you, which by the way does not include your television.
Note: This post was written earlier this week. For more information, see the previous post. This post is part two of that story.
At this time life is so much better. Eating is under God’s control now. He is a good God and patient too.
The pit bull was adopted by some relatives of one of our friends. They have 3 acres of land for him to run in. We only have a small suburban yard. His new family stays in contact with me about how’s he doing. They even sent me pictures. It seems all is happy especially the dog.
Holy 30 Devotional
**This short devotional, “Holy 30” (See picture of Day 29 & Day 30) is based on I Peter 1:16. First Baptist of Tillman’s Corner published this devotional. I didn’t write any of it, but I do have permission to share it with you. These are the last two entries of this devotional.
If you would like some additional information about our church check out this website: http://www.fbtc.org/ . You can also listen to some sermons from our pastors. Enjoy them, I do.
Lord, thank you the pitbull dog didn’t bite anyone while we were on our trip, especially the grandchildren who fed both dogs while we were gone. Later we found out the pitbull dog threatened our elderly neighbor. I’m grateful the dog didn’t get through the old semi-rotten privacy fence. Thank you Lord for watching over all and keeping them safe.
Also, thank you for our travel safety as we retreated for a rest and to celebrate our 45th wedding anniversary.Thank you for Your wonderful mercy Lord. The weather was beautiful and so were the mountains.
We were on the way home from our anniversary trip at Gatlinburg, Tennessee when our elderly neighbor called. He was very upset and complaining because our pitbull dog had terrified him by growling and jumping up on the privacy fence. Also the dog had pushed one of the fence boards loose and now had our elderly neighbor terrified. He was afraid the dog was going to come through the fence and attack him. Because of that, now the neighbor won’t even go into his own backyard due to being afraid of our pitbull dog.
This dog was a stray that just showed up. We fed him and he stayed, but now due to our neighbor’s extreme fear Hubby says this pitbull needs to go. I agree. I have to admit I’ve become a little leary myself.
Also Lord, I’m ashamed to say I gluttonized last night. After determining not to overeat during our trip and struggling to maintain food sanity throughout, I get home and gluttonize like a crazy person. Guess I was tired from the trip and bummed out over this pitbull dog situation. What are we going to do?
Lord, I know I don’t deserve Your help, but could You help us with this pitbull situation? Could You help us find him a good home?
Child, I am helping you. Now rejoice in this, for I am in charge. Trust. I have already picked out a new home for him. Now, about you . . .
Do You think I should make another Facebook post about someone else adopting the dog?
Child, I want to talk about you now. . . Do you know how much I love you?
Sir, I can only imagine.
Right. What did I do for you?. . . Just for you?
Uh. . . You died for me.
Child, you must die to all that is “self” for Me. I can only trust those who are completely yielded to Me, just as you can only trust a dog who is submissive to you. If you desire to be used by Me and you say you do, then you must be totally yielded to Me. You must die to all that is “self”.
But Lord, how? I haven’t succeeded in total victory yet, only partially, only sometimes. So how can I die to self? I struggled against this overwhelming urge to overeat throughout our entire trip only to get home and eat until I was bloated. Yes, we ate “high on the hog” celebrating our 45th anniversary throughout this trip. We shared dessert most every meal. But I did keep it in control, portion wise and I ate no snacks at all.
Then after we got back home, around 7pm, I stood on the scales before eating supper. I should have known better. The scales showed a three pound gain. I know nighttime is not the best time to weigh myself, but I did it anyway.
And what were your thoughts before getting on those scales?
Uh, . . . I thought, “I don’t care what they say. I’m still going to eat all those leftovers.”
Child, that was your first mistake. You declared you were going to eat all the leftovers no matter what the scales said. Did you think to ask Me what I thought? Did you seek My will concerning your food?
I see. Child, it was your “self” that wanted it all. You weren’t even hungry. You just wanted to eat due to stress. Am I right?
What should you do next time?
Lord, should I share with the others on that Pittbull Facebook group about the fence board being loose and let them know the pitbull dog acted like he was going to get into the neighbor’s yard? The neighbor was afraid the pitbull dog was going to attack him.? Some of those people on that FB group said I should get rid of the neighbor and not the dog. What???
Child, . . . don’t change the subject. What should you do next time?
Uh, . . . first of all I shouldn’t have weighed myself after a 10 hour ride in the car. Then I shouldn’t have determined to eat all the leftover pasta from the night before. I should have asked You first Lord about what I should eat?
Child, I blessed you with many blessings throughout your trip. You won many food battles. I gave you victory throughout. Then you get home stressed over this dog issue and proceed to calm yourself with food. Did this help your situation?
Know this child of MIne, I am working out this dog issue for your good. I shut the mouth of a lion and I shut the mouth of this dog. Now I’m giving you an open door to provide a better home for him. Yes, I said a better home for him. I’m relieving you of this stress, worry, and even your fears concerning this dog. Watch and see what I will do. Trust Me. You don’t handle it, I will. I will send him to a new home and you will feel good about it.
Now yield yourself to Me so I can set you free from your self-inflicted chains of bondage to compulsive overeating.
Ok Lord, here I am. Do with me as You wish. I am Yours.
By the way, those size 10 pants are already yours now. I’ve already planned it.
Note: On Friday, a family came to meet our pitbull dog. They said they already had a pitbull and love them. They said they have three acres of fenced land for him to run.
When they got here, they played with this pitbull in ways we never have. He was so excited he was jumping up and down like a rabbit. Overall he immediately took to them and they seemed thrilled with him.
When they were ready to leave he hopped in their car so happy to go. Not only did he act so happy to be with them, but also he never even told us bye. He was so excited to be with them that he never even looked back.
Lord, I praise You for answering our prayers. Since I now get daily messages from the new owners with updates of all he is doing and how happy he is, I can see how You answered this need of a good home for this dog.
Thank you Lord!
The Lord your God is merciful and compassionate. He won’t withdraw His Presence from you if you return to Him. 2 Chronicles 30:9
. . . Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, and let your soul delight itself in abundance. Isaiah 55:2
If the Lord delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm; though he stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand. Psalm 37:23–24
Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness for they shall be filled. Matthew 5:6
Holy 30 Devotional
**The short devotional, “Holy 30” (See picture of Day 27 & Day 28) is based on I Peter 1:16. First Baptist of Tillman’s Corner published this devotional. I didn’t write any of it, but I do have permission to share it with you.
If you would like some additional information about our church check out this website: http://www.fbtc.org/ . You can also listen to some sermons from our pastors. Enjoy them, I do.
(Lord above all, show me how to reach them with Your love. )
(Lord, not only could You show me how, what, and with whom I can share Your love with, but also could You open my eyes to see those around me with needs that I don’t see now. In addition, open my eyes, ears, and heart to each of those You have given to me. Finally, help me minister Your love to them in such a way so that it will cause them to seek Your love for themselves.)