Rejected by Friends

Lord, I feel so rejected by my friends. What do You want from me?

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Lord, I do love You. Thank You for loving me, but I feel so unlovable now. After all I just didn’t measure up to their standards and  I can’t be what they think I should be. To change myself so I fit in their status mold, not mine, makes me feel so uneasy. After all, their mold doesn’t fit me. For instance, it feels like a tight squeezing shoe or a sock that falls down all day. I just didn’t fit in their group, but the rejection hurts.

Is it me or them? Dealing with people is hard. It’s disappointing to try to meet their expectations, then realize you never will, see the disappointment in their eyes as they look at you, and know you didn’t measure up to their standards.

Sometimes Lord, I try really hard to maintain their standards, only to fail again and reinforce that I just don’t measure up. No wonder they rejected me.

2017-02-11 11.41.11Lord, have I disappointed them in some way? I disappoint myself all the time. Sometimes a thought comes which shocks me. How can I think that? Where did it come from? Do these evil thoughts reflect in my expressions and that’s why they don’t like me?

No, it can’t be, those evil thoughts come when I’m alone. So it can’t be that. Lord, please forgive me and renew my mind so these evil thoughts don’t ever return again. Let me only think thoughts that please You and bring You honor.

But Lord, the coldness and rejection I feel from them, is this payback resulting from my withdrawal from another friend due to my disapproval of her behavior? Did I hurt her, so now the rejection I feel from these others is my justified punishment? You know, “What goes around, comes around” and “You reap what you sow.” Is that why I feel so rejected by my friends? Am I being punished?

Or could it be they reached out to me in friendship and I didn’t respond, therefore they quit reaching? Did they think I rejected them? Is that It?

Lord I really think it began when I was invited to that group function and I just didn’t fit in the group. I didn’t measure up to the standards of the group. Did they see my quietness as rejection and coldness toward them? All I could see was that I didn’t measure up to them and their standards.

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Is all this just a misunderstanding on my part? Am I imagining this? Or maybe it’s just miscommunication? Maybe that’s it.

Nonetheless, I withdrew from the group feeling inferior and rejected. My clothes weren’t as good as theirs, my hair didn’t look right, my nails weren’t pretty and my shoes were old-looking. Maybe I talked too “country” sounding. Maybe my behaviors were just too un-classy for them. I just didn’t fit in and I knew it. That’s why I felt rejected.  IMG_8516

Should I go to my friend and ask, “What happened?” Why is our relationship changing? Am I to reach out, ask what happened to change our relationship or do I just to accept this change and let it go?

We’ve been friends for so long, but now it seems so cold. Did this coldness come from me when I withdrew from the group? Did they see my withdrawal and thereby considered me cold toward them? All I could see was that I just didn’t measure up to them or their standards.

Is this the way life is? Are we just to realize that rejection and disappointment both in people, from people, and with people is just the way life is? There’s an old saying, “It is, what it is.” Is that it, it just is what it is?

The Serenity Prayer says, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change those things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Am I to reach out, ask what happened to change our relationship or am I just to accept this change and let go?

Lord, my five goals for this year was “Trust, Listen, Wait, Let Go, and Pray.”  I’m trusting You to lead me in this situation. Open my ears to listen to You. I’m waiting for Your answer, Your advice. Do I let go of this friendship?

And prayer. . . . it’s more than reciting familiar phrases. Prayer is conversation with You. Lord, I’m coming to You as my friend seeking Your wisdom and Your advice. What is Your will in this situation? What would You have me to do?

My child, trust Me for I work out all things for your good, even these rough places. It’s good that you’re ready to listen for My advice. It is good that you are waiting here in My Presence before responding  to another. IMG_5087

Let go of your self-condemnation. I don’t condemn you for not measuring up to the world’s standards, therefore do not condemn yourself. My standards are the highest of all, but they are already achieved. I set the standard with My Blood.

My child, if people choose not to be with you, then let go of them. Focus on Me, focus on our relationship first and above all for all else will fall in place exactly according to My will.  Don’t you ask for My direction each day?

Yes, Sir, I do.

Then My child, you fit in wherever I place you.  Trust Me to lead you. I wouldn’t have you led by others, allow Me to lead you for the great I AM is all you need. I AM your El- Shaddai You are not rejected, instead you are You’re My royal daughter, the daughter of a King, and greatly loved- by Me, the Great I AM. My child, you are highly favored and blessed, not rejected. Now walk forth in the glory of My love for you.

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Ta-Da! I’m a daughter of the King!
Yes Sir, thank you Sir for loving me. I want to give my whole self to You even though I know there is no way I can measure I can measure up to You. Here I am Lord, take me. I’m Yours.

Check out this wonderful link:
https://annvoskamp.com/2017/04/when-youve-felt-rejected    

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Quote from granddaughter: “It doesn’t matter what the world thinks of you. It matters what God thinks of you.”

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I sing for joy in God, explode in praise from deep in my soul! He dressed me up in a suit of salvation, He outfitted me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom who puts on a tuxedo and a bride a jeweled tiara. Isaiah 61:10 MSG

Be strong. Take courage. Don’t be intimidated. Don’t give them a second thought because God, your God is striding ahead of you. He’s right there with you. He won’t let you down; He won’t leave you. Deuteronomy 31:6 MSG

He gives the “rejects” His hand, and leads them step-by-step. Psalm 25:9 MSG

I will sing to the Lord as long as I live; I will sing praise to my God while I have my being. May my meditation be sweet to Him; I will be glad in the Lord. Psalm 104:33-34 NKJV

 

 

 

12 thoughts on “Rejected by Friends”

  1. Sometimes, the only thing we can do is smile, when in uncomfortable situations. Then pray that God do the repairing to the friendship- then let it be. Instead, I try to focus on the friends who I get on well with. But as to those others, we can’t judge, as only God knows what is going on in their heads. I pray that peace will abound!

    1. Thank you so much for your encouragement. I’m am praying for these and trusting God to work all things out according to His will. Smiling at ya for your kindness. God’s blessings toward you

      1. Debbie,
        Big hug to you as I perceive the hurt you are going through and perhaps your friends are going through too.
        In my case it has almost always been from my spouse that I feel I don’t measure up to his very exacting standards. I have felt the very emotions you have written about. Over the years, I didn’t give up on the relationship but God worked on the relationship in such a way that we both feel equal ( I think at least I do).
        If someone behaves in a way that makes you feel inferior, usually the problem is within them- they judge themselves too harshly and so they feel they are justified in judging others harshly.
        It is all a game of judging each other- and this is just what the Lord cautioned us against doing. Don’t judge as the same yardstick one uses will be used against him.
        I say, let it go. If you let it go and say in your mind- praise God for this experience and thank you God for this experience, repeatedly, the whole issue will sort itself out is my belief.
        Susie

        1. Dear Susie,
          I just saw this today. Please forgive my late response.
          You are such a wonderful friend. I treasure my sister on the other side of the world. She inspires me so.
          Yes, it is true. I felt so inferior, but praise God for His victory of bringing us through our low places.
          Your advice is well taken and already everything has turned around.
          My Dad once said referring to the sky, “It’s amazing how quickly it can change.” Those words ministered to my heart because they also apply to everything in our lives. Don’t you think?
          You are wonderful, my friend (spiritual sister)
          Thank you for all your encouragement,
          Debbie

  2. I love you. I think you are the BEST! Actually I have the same feelings. Sometimes people aren’t thinking of anyone but themselves.They have their own insecurities, as well as sorrows.

    1. Awww. You are just too nice. Your comments are so true. Thank you for your encouragement. Love you back, LOL

      1. Really? I don’t think I even remember my periscope password. You were the only person I watched. Have you tried FB live? It’s better monitored. Non of that nonsense you used to deal with.

            1. Susie, I almost let it die. wow. It was so long that I looked at this blog that WordPress expired and I didn’t even know it. shame on me. But new life is beginning again. Thank yo for being my friend.

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